Whenever I asked this question of anyone, I got a cold response or no response at all. Most people avoided the question, some got agitated and others were amused. Most looked at me questioningly and thought, ‘What a Fool!' They put the question back at me and asked, why would, someone ever want to be called a ‘Fool? I would look at them jokingly and tell them that, for some reason ‘Fools'... more

We have committed to master ourselves in 2009 and we will do whatever it takes! What I'm about to share with you is true however, for all of us at various stages in our lives and all the years to come. Somewhere, something has shaped our lives. I call these ‘PARADIGMS'.  We have been guided, led, and sometimes dictated by these in the past and will do so in the future. Most of us will... more

Wish everyone a Merry Christmas and an absolutely fascinating year ahead, fascinating because of the discoveries that you could make about yourself. It will not only surprise you but make life much more fun… because you will have the opportunity to fix the biggest puzzle of your life....YOURSELF!!  LIFE IS TO BE LIVED, NOT TO BE GONE THROUGH BUT THAT EFFORT HAS TO COME FROM US. IF WE... more

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I often hear that it's impossible to be and stay motivated all the time. This is so true, thanks to two basic principles of motivation: What motivates one person might not motivate another; What motivates someone one day might not work the next; Simple principles but true to life. No need to be disheartened about being less motivated at times. We keep trying to use Will power to... more

Mumbai shocked everyone, however, the speed at which Mumbai tried to get back to normal was equally shocking for me! Yes… life has to get back to normal. There is a sense of anger, outrage but WHERE IS IT expressed? I wish the city ... the country had stopped at least for a day and EXPRESS what they felt. The outrage has almost dies down. It is important to vent out your feelings towards... more

What does happiness mean to you? Often described as a state of mind when you feel useful, honoured, content, loved, loving and growing, happiness is sought after by one and all!!!  The levels of   your self esteem are directly proportional to the level of happiness in different areas your life. Want to try defining it for yourself.........let's do some word building around this 'most desired'... more

A friend of mine was very good at analysing every situation before he took any further steps in his life, work or relationships. I found him extremely articulate until I started working in the field of personal development. The analysis, the questions, the debates, the decisions turned out to be an unconscious cover for the self doubts and the fears that he was facing. The fears were about him... more

Thank you friends for your response to the previous blog. Today's blog is an extension of the previous one but we will approach the same thought from an opposite perspective. If we are not aware of our own worth, the question is how worthy will WE be for anyone else !!! How will we ever convey or transfer that worth to someone else!! If we are not useful to someone somewhere, that itself should... more

Friends, let me introduce you to concepts in self esteem that make people wonder what they had been thinking all this time about themselves. We will do a number of these over the next weeks so you can take up each of these over a period of ten days, work in it and move on to the next.A question that I want to ask you...Are you important to someone?? Think about it...I repeat, Are you important... more

It is important in life to know when to say YES and when to say NO. Culturally it is rude to say NO and we must say YES whether or not we want to. But if we start conducting ourselves based on that thought, it seems quite impossible to say YES to everything and everyone. It is not even right. Let me tell you why!!! In the last blog I mentioned about WHAT to say NO to. Today, I want you to know... more

Yet another series of blasts in Delhi, I was in Delhi when this happened, luckily I was not in either of the places where the blasts took place. I have lived and grown up in one of these places, worked in one other, always shop in one of these, so it came as quite a shock for the proximity that we all have to attacks like these. I was flooded with phone calls asking if I hadn't been adventurous... more

We travel on roads every day, there are turns, there are speed breakers, there are potholes, there are smooth stretches, sometimes there are traffic jams, sometimes there are complete road blocks and we have no choice left but to take a U turn and take a different road.Do you see the similarities of WHAT YOU DO ON THE ROAD with our life!! I do....I feel it's so very similar to what life has to... more

We called my mother a 'complaints box' sometimes out of fun and sometimes out of sheer frustration because for any conversation with her you had to listen to her complaining about something or the other. Inspite of being a very nice and caring person, her opening statements in any conversation were complaints , mostly against people….something that they had done or something that they had not... more

All my friends in India, on the eve of our 61st Independence Day, let me wish you independence in thought and action. Do introspect while you celebrate, where we are, how we are, where we would like to be and how we can get there as individuals and as a country! Remember, YOU choose to think the way you do and you have to take responsibility for your thoughts. Today, take a break, it's a... more

Thank you friends for your response to the earlier blogs. Today's blog is in response to messages left which I felt were from readers feeling helpless in their situations. Take heart, get inspired, inspiration can change lives, yours can too. Try analyzing your situations after reading today's blog and let me know if there is a difference in thought. My life has been full of ups and downs.... more

Personal Development and Growth are very personal things. If you personally think that you have to develop some part of your person, you need to take interest in it personally, otherwise you probably feel... you have enough personality to really care about personal development.If you are personally inclined to look into your person  and while at it, you get personal satisfaction, you are able... more

More often than not, we get bogged down by circumstances, people, issues, and WE get lost in the whole process. Life becomes ALL about the circumstances, the people, the issues and we get pushed around like a ping pong ball. This, then becomes of life. A complete out of control way of living which really adds nothing to us except the feeling that we are LOST. Take heart …You are not alone,... more

Each one of us is a unique individual, and each one of us has our unique NEEDS apart from the basic need to eat, drink, sleep and be merry. Over the years, we get conditioned to live life in a certain way and do things in a certain way, may not be the best way but a CERTAIN way which we feel good about and which makes us feel good, a way that we like, feel positive about, something that we enjoy... more

95% of us live through the syndrome of 'Living Right'. 5% actually live somewhere THERE. I am not aware of what this RIGHT is, but I have an inkling of what it could be!!! The 5% succeed and the 95% wonder what is it that they are doing.. to be whoever they are and whatever they are doing. 95% strive to be like the 5%, and strangely enough, the 5% are PEOPLE like you and me!! What is the... more

Dear Friends, Thank you for all the wonderful and some very emotional messages that I have received online and offline. From now on, you will see a new blog every Monday and I would like to call it the Weekly Booster!!!! You will have the whole week to read it, apply it, try it out and keep coming back to it as a reference point for what to do IN and WITH yourself that week. Whatever... more

Hi Friends, Thank you for all your responses, very encouraging to see that the previous articles have made an impact on some of you, I hope to make a difference in your thought, but I would like to say that Personal Growth and Development have to be experienced and these blogs are not simply to inspire. I would like to make it an enjoyable experience for you because it will be a process... more

Imagine if we did not wake up tomorrow morning ! Each day we sleep, fix our alarms for the next day and how conveniently we take each day's rise for granted. As each day evolves, so do we evolve BUT OFTEN WE LET IT GO PAST US, and then we wonder 'Why everything around us is changing but nothing is changing in our lives!' The answer is simple...you are not celebrating your birthday!!!!... more

They make us, they break us. They make us fly and they bring us crashing down. They lift us, they push us, they belong to us but we give them away. We just let them go, even though they are our own "What are you talking about Abha?" Well Heard of the biggest 'downer' that dampened all of us sometime or the other in our lives. Ever wondered what is the No.1 reason for people failing at what they... more